Matthew Mac Fadyen, Keira Knightley, director Joe Wright and other members of the cast and staff of Pride and Prejudice 2005 discuss the key role of balls in 18th century dating in one of the extra videos I have in my DVD.
"Dancing was absolutely central in ther society - says Jane Gibson, coreographer - in terms of finding a good husband or a good wife. When you went to a dance or if there was a dance at the end of a party you would almost always be in the presence of your parents.So if you think about how you want to behave with your mum and dad watching..."
We know much about this from reading our beloved Austen "majors" , especially Northanger Abbey, Pride and Prejudice, Emma and Sense and Sensibility, since less about the importance of balls we find in Mansfield Park or Persuasion. As we also know that a dance was the only moment you were allowed to talk alone with someone you were attracted to or in love with.


And Keira Knightley adds: "They never really touch. Women do not shake hands with men, so the first time Darcy touches Elizabeth (she refers to a scene in the movie) is when he helps her into the carriage , which is a really beautiful moment because it is the first skin-on-skin touch and I think, today, we don't think twice about that all ..."
So we can just imagine the excitement you could experience at a ball dancing with a partner you liked!
These balls included: Assembly Room dances that occurred in town, smaller dances thrown at country inns, and private balls given at a country home by a private citizen.
The Assembly Room
Rooms were public venues specifically built for public balls. In his book What Jane Austen Ate and Charles Dickens Knew, Daniel Pool talks about the Master of Ceremonies, whose responsibility was to know the background of the young men and women present, and then introduce them so they could dance, as it was improper for men and women of the day to introduce themselves. The Master of ceremonies also made sure that the attendees maintained their propriety and proper etiquette.
We can see an example of this in Northanger Abbey 2007: Henry Tilney after meeting Lady Allen and Catherine at a public ball in Bath helps them and inappropriately talk to them without being previously and formerly introduced. So, in order to repair the serious crime against propriety, he asks the Master of Ceremony to introduce him to the ladies. Only after that, he asks Catherine to dance with him.
The Private Balls
The Style of Dancing
The Etiquette of Dancing
We can see an example of this in Northanger Abbey 2007: Henry Tilney after meeting Lady Allen and Catherine at a public ball in Bath helps them and inappropriately talk to them without being previously and formerly introduced. So, in order to repair the serious crime against propriety, he asks the Master of Ceremony to introduce him to the ladies. Only after that, he asks Catherine to dance with him.
Dances at country inns were similar to this, but on a much smaller scale. They were usually held in smaller communities, organized by locals, and consisted of dancing and dining. When gentlemen and ladies of high rank happened to make their appearance in such happy but humble gatherings, surprising and unexpected things could happen. Thinking of Meryton Assembly Dance in Pride and Prejudice, of course. But also in Emma we've got a similar dance organized by Miss Woodhouse and Frank Churchill who hire a big hall in the village for the occasion.
The Private Balls
The smallest gatherings were balls thrown at private estates by individuals.These balls would also consist of dining as well as dancing. The dinner was held very late (around midnight) and could consist of a few courses to sometimes even eight or ten. According to Maggie Lane's book Jane Austen's World, the menu consisted of things such as soup, pigeon pie, veal, cheese, oysters, and trifles, and was typically served with wine or negus, which was a mixture of boiling water, wine, lemon, spices, and calves-foot jelly. Mr. Bingley throws one of these balls at Netherfield Park in Pride and Prejudice. See this beautiful fanvideo blending scenes from Pride and Prejudice 1995 with scenes from P&P 2005
Though we are not at all sure things went this way, I love the dance in Becoming Jane ( 2007) in which fictionalized Jane Austen (Anne Hathaway) and Tom Lefroy (James McAvoy) dance together at Lady Gresham's private ball. I love when he comes out of nowhere with that incredible smile and magnetic look. Classic romantic moment.
Though we are not at all sure things went this way, I love the dance in Becoming Jane ( 2007) in which fictionalized Jane Austen (Anne Hathaway) and Tom Lefroy (James McAvoy) dance together at Lady Gresham's private ball. I love when he comes out of nowhere with that incredible smile and magnetic look. Classic romantic moment.
The Style of Dancing
As for the actual dances, they were not the dances of couples as we know in the modern sense. According to Janet Todd's Jane Austen in Context, the “ladies and gentlemen [would be] standing opposite each other in a line or a circle." These dances could have as few as three couples, and upwards of twenty. Because all of the dancers, not just the couples, were involved with the dancing, the more couples involved with the dance, the longer a set lasted. This was good for the couples, because if there were a lot of people dancing, they may have to wait their turn to dance, so they could flirt with their partner. This is seen at the Netherfield Ball in Pride and Prejudice when Mr. Darcy and Elizabeth converse throughout their dance. An average dance would last around thirty minutes, giving the couple ample opportunity to talk.
The Etiquette of Dancing
As for the dancing, it was improper etiquette for a woman to dance more than two dances with the same partner, and if two people did dance more than two dances together, they were assumed engaged. This is seen in Sense and Sensibility when Marianne and Willoughby are “partners for half the time” and “were careful to stand together and scarcely spoke a word to anybody else." Ladies would also carry dance cards to mark the names of men who they had promised dances to, so as to keep it all in order.
All of these circumstances provided the perfect opportunity to have fun, and if they were lucky, make a life match.