(by Victoria Grossack)
Are you at a loss, this holiday season,
at what to give your loved ones? Why not
take a look at the gifts in Jane Austen’s novels and see if they inspire you? And beware of the pitfalls, as not all gifts are
welcome from all givers.
One of the most frequently bestowed
gifts in Jane Austen is money. The amount may be small, such as the single
pound note given by Mrs. Norris to William Price in Mansfield Park (this amount is not given explicitly in the text,
but Jane Austen herself told her family that was the amount she meant). Or the sum may be enormous, as when Darcy
bribes Wickham to marry Lydia Bennet in Pride
& Prejudice. Today some people
turn their noses up at money, but in Jane Austen’s novels, recipients are
almost always appreciative.
Assuming you want to be more personal,
let’s consider other significant gifts in Austen’s novels.
The
pianoforte.
In Emma (spoiler alert), Frank
Churchill ‘anonymously’ gives Jane Fairfax a pianoforte to use during her stay
in Highbury. Of course, Miss Fairfax
knows who the donor is, but as she cannot say, the gift makes her vulnerable to
unkind rumors. On the other hand, it is
a pretty instrument, a generous gift, and she enjoys playing it
tremendously. What can one learn from
this? It’s always good to remember the
tastes of your recipients, and to give them what they lack in certain
situations. Still, do your best not to
cause mischief and inconvenience.
The
cross, necklace and chain. In Mansfield
Park, Fanny has a cross given to her by her favorite brother, William Price
(this was a tribute to the crosses given by Jane Austen’s real brothers to her). William, however, was too poor to provide a
suitable chain, so Fanny had to wear the cross with a ribbon or piece of string,
diminishing its appearance. She receives
a chain from her cousin Edmund, ideal for its purpose, and a necklace from Mary
Crawford, who is acting as an agent for her brother Henry Crawford. Fanny is in love with Edmund and mistrusts
Mary Crawford, and furthermore, the chain from Edmund suits her purpose far
better than the necklace from Mary. What
can we learn? Jewelry is always welcome,
but not from everyone, and taste matters.
Food. In Emma, food is frequently given by those who have much to those who
have less. Emma sends broth to a poor
family suffering from illness. She also
sends food (part of a porker), as does Mr. Knightley (his best baking apples),
to the Bates family. The gifts are
generally welcome – Miss Bates is most effusive in her gratitude – with the
exception at the end when Emma tries to send some arrowroot to the ailing Jane
Fairfax. (Arrowroot, popular at the time
Emma was written, is a source of
starch but contains few vitamins and has since fallen out of favor.) Miss Fairfax, jealous of Emma, sends back the
gift.
Poetry. In Emma, Mr. Elton gives Emma a riddle in the form of a poem,
signaling his affection. Emma does not
accept the affection – and if she had realized that he was wooing her at the
time she might have turned up her nose at the poem. But something clever while not too personal –
you have to consider your relationship with the recipient – is generally
appreciated.
Portraits and locks of hair are
also frequently exchanged, as we see in Sense
& Sensibility and Persuasion. Today we mostly do digital photographs and no
locks of hair – the latter would be appreciated by few – but the idea is the
same.
Favors
and convenience. Frequently a gift is not so much a thing as
it is taking the trouble to assist another.
Edmund arranges for his cousin Fanny to have a horse to ride; Mr. Elton
takes Emma’s portrait of Harriet up to London to get it framed; Mr. Knightley
offers to run errands for Miss Bates in Kingston; Lady Catherine offers lifts
to the Collinses in (one of) her carriages.
The recipients are all grateful, as these are not things they can manage
themselves.
Calls
and letters. Making calls on people was a way of honoring
them with gifts of attention and time. There were many rules to calling on
others, usually scrupulously observed.
Letter-writing too, was very important, in a time without emails and
phones or even trains.
Bestowing a gift on another infuses the
giver with increased status. This may
make no difference to those who are in a position to give easily, such as Emma
Woodhouse and Mr. Darcy.; they already have plenty of status. But when Fanny in Mansfield Park buys a knife for her youngest sister Betsy, to stop
her constantly taking the silver knife of another sister, Susan, Fanny feels
much more like an adult. It improves her
confidence, and reminds us that it is better to give than to receive.
So far we have seen that the actual gifts
made in Jane Austen’s novels are generally quite ordinary: music, food,
jewelry, poetry, pictures, favors, calls and especially cash (what my father
called the “universal gift certificate”).
Sometimes she mentions presents without even telling us what they are,
as when the Gardiners visit the Bennets for Christmas in Pride & Prejudice. After
all, she writes about the most everyday events and makes them special by
imbuing them with love, laughter and insight.
So if you were looking for something unusual, you probably won’t find it
in her novels (unless you think your loved ones would appreciate locks of
hair). The gifts are made special by the
circumstances.
You may notice a friend or a loved one’s
need and be able to find exactly what suits, because you have special insight
into circumstances or access to what you know they need. But if the most perfect gift does not occur
to you, that’s no reason to feel dismayed. The old standbys will serve, as long as you give
your gifts with genuine grace and good will.
So if you are stressed by the holiday shopping, relax.
Victoria Grossack is the author of The Highbury Murders: A Mystery Set
in the Village of Jane Austen’s Emma, The
Meryton Murders: A Mystery Set in the Town of Jane Austen’s Pride &
Prejudice, and a whole bunch of other
stuff.
2 comments:
wonderful observations that hold true to today
denise
Very consciously written and well-said, especially about giving what is needed. Not enough of that now, and it's good to be reminded.
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